Fired Up About Marriage...And You Should Be Too

Half of the battle to have a passionate and thriving marriage is won or lost with attitude. Merriam-Webster defines attitude as a mental position with regard to a fact or state. It's a mental position, a mindset, in other words, what are you thinking, where is your head, this is real life not a game, a passionate and thriving marriage is worth fighting for, you're a man of honor so the odds of winning are irrelevant, I know this is tough but you can do this.

Marriage is the greatest institution ever created. A passionate and thriving marriage is the most intimate relationship attainable between two people. "I love being married. My wife is my best friend and I adore her. Nothing short of death will ever separate us. I'm 'All In' and loving every minute of it."

Maybe your marriage is not at a point where you can mimic my statements in the last paragraph, but you know you want that kind of a marriage. You want to honor your vow to love and cherish your wife, for her to be your best friend, and for your intimate times to be the most amazing experience you can imagine. And you should have that, it's how God designed it to be, it's what you signed up for when you said 'I do.' So the question becomes, how do you get a thriving and passionate marriage?


Six Steps to a Thriving and Passionate Marriage

1) Re-engage. Get back in the fight and set a target for a thriving and passionate marriage

2) Decide that you are 'All In' and commit to do everything in your power to make that happen in your marriage. I don't care about the past. I don't care about how many marriages you had before or how badly you messed up your current marriage. The past is the past. all I want to know is what you're going to do today and tomorrow, and every day after that to win back your marriage or to take your marriage to the next level.

3) Stay focused on the target ... a passionate and thriving marriage. Forward and backward steps come with the territory. So, get over it and don't let a few setbacks deter you from reaching your goal. 

4) Accept that winning back your wife is hard work. If you're a wimp just go ahead and check out now. Otherwise, drive a stake in the ground to mark the point where you are committing to be 'All In.' A commitment to never stop fighting for a stronger and more passionate marriage. 

5) Get a wingman, someone who will be a mentor and encourager and will not be afraid to tell it to you straight. 

6) Get a strong marriage coach who will help guide you along the way and keep you on track when things get tough and they will get tough at times. 

You are a man of honor and integrity
You have what it takes
You can do this!