Re-Connection is an exercise to help a couple rebuild a physical desire for each other. The exercise focuses on our sense of touch and our most sensual organ…our brain. The intent of the exercise is to etch into your brain vivid images of your spouse that will be recalled when you are thinking about him/her and especially when you are anticipating an intimate evening. While this exercise is geared toward a marriage on the rocks, it is a great exercise even for those with a healthy and passionate marriage. 

Would you consider yourself a man of your word? Most guys would say yes. The question then becomes ... why? 

Quit being a wimp and man up! Start doing whatever it takes to take your marriage to greatness.

Half of the battle to have a passionate and thriving marriage is won or lost with attitude. Merriam-Webster defines attitude as a mental position with regard to a fact or state. It's a mental position, a mindset, in other words, what are you thinking, where is your head, this is real life not a game, a passionate and thriving marriage is worth fighting for, you're a man of honor so the odds of winning are irrelevant, I know this is tough but you can do this.

On "Everybody Loves Raymond" (my favorite show), Debra reminds Raymond that he agreed to watch the kids on Sat. He, of course, denies it. He then tries to nullify his agreement with "did I say 'Yes' or did you ask me while I was watching the game and I said 'Yeah, Yeah, Yeah'" It was the latter, but Debra held him to it non-the-less.

My book, For The Honor Of The vow, contains a list of eight rules. Rule #2 is No Timeline. Under this rule, it is made clear your commitment to love and cherish your wife is a life-long commitment which means you are not finished cultivating your marriage until you're dead. 

15 yrs, 20 yrs, 25 yrs ... it's over. Marriages falling apart after so many years together. Two people who invested so much time to building a marriage and a family and then just walking from it all. It blows me away every time but, unfortunately, it's not uncommon. 

A wall is defined in many ways particularly with respect to literal and figurative representations. In general a wall is used to hold something up, keep something out, keep something in, or keep things separated. Figuratively speaking, a wall in marriage serves a similar purpose. In a negative sense, a wall divides and emotionally separates you from your spouse and causes long term damage to your relationship with him or her. In a positive sense, a wall can protect your marriage by providing a hedge of protection around your relationship thereby creating a safe environment that allows for healing and growth.

Marriage should be viewed as a new life, not an add-on to your current life.

Through many interactions with husbands, lots of research, and a large amount of reading others books on marriage and counseling, I've come to believe strongly in something a former boss of mine used to say. This may come across as somewhat blunt, but in the spirit of Geico's Drill Sergeant Turned Therapist commercial, sometimes you just need to be blunt. 

Let me set the stage. You come home and ask your wife if she picked up your shirts from the cleaners. In your mind, this is a simple yes or no question, but what you get is a fifteen minute play-by-play of her day which ends with, 'and that's why I did not get your shirts today.' Anyone else been there or am I the only one? 

We're divorcing for the kids, it would be better for them to not see mom and dad fighting all the time. 

One man explains, "After ten years of marriage, my wife told me it disgusted her to even look at me." Another man tells of returning from a business trip and being greeted by his wife with her saying, "you've been gone for two weeks and I didn't miss you at all." Another tells how after years of not being intimate with his wife, she now wants a divorce. 

This may be a stretch, but I think I can pull it off, so stick with me. 

It is very common to feel hopeless when your marriage is falling apart. Webster defines Hopeless as…Feeling despair about something. Hopelessness is the result of being both physically and mentally spent, totally confused about what you feel, and the fear that nothing will ever change.